The Rub

There is a flaw to the sleep lady approach when it comes to my kid.

I have to sit there while Xavier falls asleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he sometimes looks for me and fully wakes up screaming for me because I'm not there anymore. If you remember from Ferber, you shouldn't give kids a job to do in the middle of the night. The conditions they fell asleep under should be the same throughout the night. Well, if I'm sitting there until he falls asleep and then leaving, I give Xavier a job to do by looking for me in the middle of the night.

Now, I know he will still call for me sometimes even if I'm not staying in his room until he falls asleep, but I'm still not being fair by doing this. I just really don't feel like there is another way right now...but I need to go for it and try.