There is a flaw to the sleep lady approach when it comes to my kid.
I have to sit there while Xavier falls asleep. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, he sometimes looks for me and fully wakes up screaming for me because I'm not there anymore. If you remember from Ferber, you shouldn't give kids a job to do in the middle of the night. The conditions they fell asleep under should be the same throughout the night. Well, if I'm sitting there until he falls asleep and then leaving, I give Xavier a job to do by looking for me in the middle of the night.
Now, I know he will still call for me sometimes even if I'm not staying in his room until he falls asleep, but I'm still not being fair by doing this. I just really don't feel like there is another way right now...but I need to go for it and try.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Monday, June 13, 2011
Stuck
Xavier's sleep has definitely improved. The method worked, too. I gradually moved out into the hallway where he could still see me and he was okay with it. Until two things happened: he stayed the night at Grandma and Grandpa Corr's house and he started teething.
The night at G&G Corr's through him off. He flipped when I tried to sit in the hallway his first night back. In fact, I had to move all the way back to the crib to comfort him. He was also waking up screaming due to his I-teeth coming in. I've moved to just inside the door but now, I'm stuck...and running out of time.
I need to move out to the hallway. I will do it. I just don't have faith that we will get beyond this point and we need to. I need to be able to put him in his crib and walk out of the room while he falls asleep. Being 8 months pregnant, it is becoming more and more difficult to sit on the floor sometimes for 10 minutes and sometimes for 45.
For those thinking I'm being to soft about this, I do have a few choice words for you but I'll pick these ones: cry it out doesn't work for him or me. He gets so worked up he won't sleep and then he pukes. I don't want him to go through that. Tears are okay but not me just shutting the door and walking away while he cries (see previous posts). I really do like this method and this along with prayer has been going well.
Now, I just need to have faith I can get unstuck before the baby arrives.
The night at G&G Corr's through him off. He flipped when I tried to sit in the hallway his first night back. In fact, I had to move all the way back to the crib to comfort him. He was also waking up screaming due to his I-teeth coming in. I've moved to just inside the door but now, I'm stuck...and running out of time.
I need to move out to the hallway. I will do it. I just don't have faith that we will get beyond this point and we need to. I need to be able to put him in his crib and walk out of the room while he falls asleep. Being 8 months pregnant, it is becoming more and more difficult to sit on the floor sometimes for 10 minutes and sometimes for 45.
For those thinking I'm being to soft about this, I do have a few choice words for you but I'll pick these ones: cry it out doesn't work for him or me. He gets so worked up he won't sleep and then he pukes. I don't want him to go through that. Tears are okay but not me just shutting the door and walking away while he cries (see previous posts). I really do like this method and this along with prayer has been going well.
Now, I just need to have faith I can get unstuck before the baby arrives.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Light sleeper
My kid is a light sleeper and I'm getting really pissed at the people who say he has to learn to "sleep through it." Wtf? How do you teach him that? What kind of training sessions do you set up?
"Ooooooooo...he's asleep now! Let's run the vacuum in his room to train him to sleep through it!" My mom actually told me to...kind of. She said the only time she could vacuum was after I went to sleep because she worked all day. Well, that's great but all it is going to do is wake him up.
Yes, he's slept through Titan barking (one bark) and through a thunderstorm (it was when he first went to sleep at night) but the problem is naps. He doesn't like them but needs them. Oh my Lord, does he need them. 2 hours. That's all. But it is sometimes a struggle to get him down for one because he wants to be up having fun (especially when daddy is home). So any kind of noise is going to wake him up.
I feel like the world is against me on this napping thing. Examples: my 90-year-old neighbor weed whipping right outside X's window. Granger garbage trucks going by our house several times right in the middle of his nap. People knocking at the door causing my dog to go bonkers. Loud motorcycles going sssssslllllloooooowwwwwwwwllllllly by his window. Other neighbor playing his bass way to loud. Everyone firing up their lawnmowers as soon as X is asleep. I could go on. I won't.
And I know I can't control what other people are doing. i can only do my best to make sure he we are excessively noisy while he's sleeping. I've put signs on the doors asking people not to ring the doorbell. I asked the 90-year-old neighbor to hold off on the weed whipping until after 2:30. But I can't ask Granger to change their route. And I can't ask everyone to change their lives just so my kid can get that 2 hours he needs.
and it is about to get worse because Miss Ellison is on her way...well, in two months. At least we have made progress with the naps. Most days it takes about 5-10 minutes for him to fall asleep. Today, it took 45 mins. So, I get stressed out about it because it is hard work and I'm pregnant. It feels like it's is me against the world between the hours of 11:30ish a.m. and 2:30ish p.m.
Even now...we are coming up on the 2 hour mark in about 20 minutes...and I'm almost giddy yet at the same time, holding my breath.
"Ooooooooo...he's asleep now! Let's run the vacuum in his room to train him to sleep through it!" My mom actually told me to...kind of. She said the only time she could vacuum was after I went to sleep because she worked all day. Well, that's great but all it is going to do is wake him up.
Yes, he's slept through Titan barking (one bark) and through a thunderstorm (it was when he first went to sleep at night) but the problem is naps. He doesn't like them but needs them. Oh my Lord, does he need them. 2 hours. That's all. But it is sometimes a struggle to get him down for one because he wants to be up having fun (especially when daddy is home). So any kind of noise is going to wake him up.
I feel like the world is against me on this napping thing. Examples: my 90-year-old neighbor weed whipping right outside X's window. Granger garbage trucks going by our house several times right in the middle of his nap. People knocking at the door causing my dog to go bonkers. Loud motorcycles going sssssslllllloooooowwwwwwwwllllllly by his window. Other neighbor playing his bass way to loud. Everyone firing up their lawnmowers as soon as X is asleep. I could go on. I won't.
And I know I can't control what other people are doing. i can only do my best to make sure he we are excessively noisy while he's sleeping. I've put signs on the doors asking people not to ring the doorbell. I asked the 90-year-old neighbor to hold off on the weed whipping until after 2:30. But I can't ask Granger to change their route. And I can't ask everyone to change their lives just so my kid can get that 2 hours he needs.
and it is about to get worse because Miss Ellison is on her way...well, in two months. At least we have made progress with the naps. Most days it takes about 5-10 minutes for him to fall asleep. Today, it took 45 mins. So, I get stressed out about it because it is hard work and I'm pregnant. It feels like it's is me against the world between the hours of 11:30ish a.m. and 2:30ish p.m.
Even now...we are coming up on the 2 hour mark in about 20 minutes...and I'm almost giddy yet at the same time, holding my breath.
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